I am angry. I am very angry. I am extremely angry. I don't think I have ever really said this out loud in 30 years. The last time I told someone I was angry was to my mom seconds before she died. I was so angry she was dying on me. I was 21 and still really needed her and she left. I know why she died, and accept there was nothing the doctors could do for her anymore, but she left me just like Kathryn left me, and just like my birth father left me. They left before knowing me.
Now I am angry because no one stays. Once I allow them in and let them get to know me they leave. Most of the time, when they leave, they create damage in their wake. It is not pleasant or friendly. Most recent one that I experienced was in 2019 and the experience was so harmful that I have not let anyone in. It was horrible and she was extremely brutal to me at the ending of that friendship. It left me questioning and very angry.
The biggest thing for me was it left me with so much anger and so little trust. It left me isolated because she used our mutual friendships against me. So I did what I normally do, take that anger out on myself. I ate and did not care.
This last 6 months have been amazing. I bought a condo, an actual home for me that is all mine. It is breaking things open in a way that I have not experienced in 30 years. As I write this, I am realizing that this year is the 30th year of my mom's passing. And the anger of her leaving is still here. The world has become the focus of my anger. The walls of the world are breaking down. So much hate is out there, how does one navigate it? How does one not absorb it? I want to eat. I want to numb the feelings that I have.
Today I recognize the anger. I feel it. I feel the stress of it in my shoulders and the ache it is causing my body. I feel it hurting me. Affecting my sleep and my waking hours. I feel it shutting me down cause I don't want to feel it. I don't want to scream in my pillows and beat my fists on the bed. I feel the heaviness of it on my body and soul.
Now comes the work.